As your student takes on the many new responsibilities of a college student, your role will change, but your student still needs you. A college student will need more support as they grow, develop, and mature into independent individuals. They will in some instances need counsel and advice from you, but do not be surprise if they do not ask. You may need to be proactive in initiating conversations about how they are doing. Your help is needed in co-designing a proactive college success plan. However, your student has to take leadership in the follow through and delivery of the actions necessary for the successful completion of the plan. Remember these few tips when communicating to your student.
- Communicate adult to adult.
- Communicate in a nonjudgmental manner.
- Communicate with consideration to both parties.
- Communicate with a purpose.
- Ask questions but don’t always expect a straight answer every time
- Close communication with a follow-up.
- Communicate in the tone that always shows love.
- Show trust in them, their thinking, and their decisions
Believe in your student. Communicate your trust in them and their belief that they made the right decision. Remember that finding “oneself” or “one’s purpose” is a difficult charge. Our “I love you!” and “I believe in you!” should not be communicated as “I’d love you better if I can control you!” Share your true experiences, including your mistakes and what you were thinking and felt afterward when you made choices.. Your adult student is the product of your years of hard work. Encourage them to ask for help and to seek out resources at the college. The administration at WSU Tri Cities works hard to help them succeed.